Your sexual health and well-being is important.
You found your way to my website, so I assume you are acutely aware of this.
Your healthcare provider may have pointed you in this direction because your sexual health and function has suddenly changed.
And you do not know what to do next.
It is normal to feel frustrated. It is normal to not have predicted the impact this would have on your life. It is normal to want a quick 'magic bullet fix.'
These are the common patterns with every client I work with, and every person I interview for my PhD research.
Frankly, every person's sexual recovery journey is different. Because when it comes to sexual well-being, everyone is different.
Even the definition of 'recovery' varies depending on your values, beliefs, and definition of 'sex.'
There is a degree of unpredictability and uncertainty in the process.
But there is also a lot that you are in control of.
I aim to bring clarity, compassion and easy steps forward for people going through a sexual health shift.
I work with people motivated to maintain their sexuality after life or medical treatment changes their physical function.
In particular, I specialise in helping men and couples after prostate cancer surgery (usually within the first 6 months post surgery).
During a consultation we create an individualised sexual recovery plan. I source all the equipment necessary and offer pathways depending on their version of 'recovery'. I check in regularly by phone to make sure the approach is leading to their desired outcomes.
Associate Professor Declan Murphy (urology surgeon, Melbourne), includes my initial 'sexual recovery' consultation as a complementary part of usual care for all his private patients. I consult from Cancer Specialists, multidisciplinary centre in Richmond, Melbourne.
My work and research.
How did you end up specialising in sexual recovery?
I studied psychology at University College London (Psychology Bsc, Cognitive Sciences Msc). During my Masters degree I discovered a passion for applying psychology to the design of healthcare products.
I fell into researching sexual health products quite by accident.
One day, back in 2013, I was tinkering with a 3D printing machine in Cophenhagen, Denmark.
3D printers are printers that print objects rather than paper. You create a 3D design on your computer, send it to the printer, and melted plastic is printed out of a pen in rows to create an object.
I was interested in how 3D printers could affect human behaviour. What would happen if every person had their own 3D printer??
My open-minded Scandinavian design friends suggested I look to history.
What have humans always done with every other piece of innovative technology...?
The Internet, DVDs, even electricity (for more on this, watch this talk I gave on the subject at a technology and design conference)
They were all driven by humans looking to solve their sexual challenges and needs first.
This led me on a fascinating journey to understand the intersection between design, psychology, sexuality, technology and health.
What are you currently doing?
- I am doing my PhD on Design solutions for Sexual Rehabilitation and Prostate Cancer at RMIT University (current candidate)
- I co-founded the world's first Sexual Health Design studio in a university environment (featured in The Age and The BBC)
- I partnered with Urology Surgeon, Declan Murphy, to deliver a complementary consultation to his private radical prostatectomy patients at his practice, Cancer Specialists.
- I have poured my knowledge, research and interviews into creating the Ferrari of all sexual recovery products post-prostatectomy. Includes a 4 week educational program and email support.