Your sexual health and well-being is important.
You found your way to my website, so I assume you are acutely aware of this.
Your healthcare provider may have pointed you in this direction because your sexual health and function has suddenly changed.
And you do not know what to do next.
It is normal to feel frustrated. It is normal to not have predicted the impact this would have on your life. It is normal to want a quick 'magic bullet fix.'
These are the common patterns with every client I work with, and every person I interview for my PhD research.
Frankly, every person's sexual recovery journey is different. Because when it comes to sexual well-being, everyone is different.
Even the definition of 'recovery' varies depending on your values, beliefs, and definition of 'sex.'
There is a degree of unpredictability and uncertainty in the process.
But there is also a lot that you are in control of.
I aim to bring clarity, compassion and easy steps forward for people going through a sexual health shift.
So what do I do? How can I help you?
I work with people motivated to maintain their sexuality after life or medical treatment changes their physical function.
I research the best possible rehabilitation programs for sexual function recovery. I translate this research into easily accessible products and services.
In particular, I specialise in helping men and couples after prostate cancer surgery (usually within the first 6 months post surgery).
During a consultation we create an individualised sexual recovery plan. I source all the equipment necessary and offer pathways depending on their version of 'recovery'. I check in regularly by phone to make sure the approach is leading to their desired outcomes.
Associate Professor Declan Murphy (urology surgeon, Melbourne), includes my initial 'sexual recovery' consultation as a complementary part of usual care for all his private patients. I consult from Cancer Specialists, multidisciplinary centre in Richmond, Melbourne.
My work and research.
I started out as an academic psychologist looking to move into clinical practice. I studied at University College London (Bsc Psychology, Msc Cognitive Sciences). During my masters degree I realised that I preferred the practical applications of psychology through design.
I enjoyed creating devices and services that employed psychological principles (for example, in 2012 I worked on an app helping Parkinson's patients track medications and side effects).
Then I fell into researching sexual health products while working on a 3D printing project in Cophenhagen, Denmark in 2013.
Let me explain...
3D printers are printers that print objects rather than paper. You create a 3D design on your computer, send it to the printer, and melted plastic is printed out of a pen in rows to create the object.
I was interested in how 3D printers could affect human behaviour.
My open-minded Scandinavian design friends suggested I look at what humans have done with every other piece of innovative technology when it was bought into the privacy of our homes... Especially The Internet (for more on this, watch this talk I gave on the subject at a technology and design conference)
This investigation began a research adventure to understand the stigma, the strategies and the solutions for sexual challenges.
During this research journey I have begun a PhD on sex and prostate cancer at RMIT University (current candidate), I co-founded the world's first sex toy design studio in a university environment (featured in The Age and The BBC) and I partnered with urology surgeon, Declan Murphy, to deliver a complementary consultation to his private radical prostatectomy patients at his practice, Cancer Specialists.
What drives my work is a fascination with creating better ways for everyday people to improve their sexual well-being. We have a multitude of options to improve diet and physical health. We should have the same for sexuality and relationships.